"Most of the people who find me have already tried therapy. They've read the books. They tell me they still feel worse, not better. There's a reason — and there's a way out."
— Rebecca Stone, LCSW
Does this sound familiar?
I know why you're here. Whether you are carrying the pain of betrayal or the weight of having broken trust, the path to healing can feel impossible to find. The breakdowns, the terrible fights, the overwhelming stress between you, the guilt, grief, anger, fear and dread — it can feel all-consuming. You may both be wondering if there is even a way through this.
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You can't stop replaying it. The timeline, the texts, the look on their face. Your mind won't let it go and your friends' advice doesn't help.
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You've tried therapy and feel worse. You walked out of a session more dysregulated than you walked in. The therapist didn't know what to do with what you were carrying.
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You don't know if you're staying or leaving. And everyone in your life seems to have a strong opinion about what you should do.
Most of my clients have been exactly where you are right now, feeling like there's no escape from the shame, the shut down, and the heartbreak. They've been stuck in this rut with their partner for months, sometimes even years, despite all their efforts to heal.
And the worst part?
Trying to heal, only to feel like you've failed. There's nothing more terrifying and painful than putting your heart into recovery and still feeling like you and your relationship are broken beyond repair.
BEGIN RECOVERYWhy Most Therapy
Fails After an Affair
Over 70% of therapists report they aren't trained to handle infidelity as trauma. The ones who are still get the order wrong — they bring both partners into the room together before either has done their own work. It backfires every time. The betrayed partner keeps hearing blame. The cheating partner shuts down or defends. Nothing moves.
Infidelity is a trauma. It needs to be treated like one. And the order of operations matters more than almost anyone in the field acknowledges.
If you're stuck in cycles of rage, intrusive thoughts, and emotional breakdowns — there's a reason. And there's a way through.
What We Do Differently
The 3-Stage Model
Individual Healing
Betrayed Partner
Individual Healing
Cheating Partner
Repairing the Relationship
A different model, designed for what actually works
Our coaching follows a three-stage model designed by Rebecca Stone, LCSW — a trauma psychotherapist with over a decade of experience specifically in infidelity recovery.
Stage 1 and Stage 2 happen in parallel, not in sequence.
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Stage 1 — Individual healing for the betrayed partner
The trauma is now living in your nervous system, and no apology from your partner can reach it. Your coach works with you 1:1 to calm the intrusive thoughts and hypervigilance, address the self-blame and the older beliefs the affair activated, and help you reclaim your sense of self — whether you stay in the relationship or not.
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Stage 2 — Individual healing for the partner who cheated
In our clinical experience, almost no affair is actually about desire. It's about old patterns of escape, secrecy, and seeking validation outside the home — patterns that started long before this relationship. Your coach works with you 1:1 to understand the real why, take real accountability without collapsing into shame, and learn to show up for your partner's healing without defensiveness.
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Stage 3 — Repairing the relationship
Once each partner has done their own work, we bring you together. By the time you reach this stage, you're two regulated people doing repair — not two dysregulated people fighting in front of a therapist.
Doing this work solo? You'll work through Stage 1 or Stage 2 on its own. Many of our clients begin individually and bring a partner in later — or never. Both paths work.
Who You'll Work With
The team you'll work with
Our coaches are trained in the most evidence-based somatic and couples modalities and have been through extensive training in Rebecca’s model. They meet weekly as a team to make sure that we are fully in sync, collaborating on your care and delivering the best possible coordinated service to you and your partner, if you choose to do couples work.
Every coach on our team has been personally trained by Rebecca in her model, and is supervised by her in every client they take on.
Some of our coaches bring extensive prior training in modalities that align closely with Rebecca's approach — trauma, somatic work, attachment, couples counseling Others have walked through affair recovery themselves and bring lived experience to the work alongside their professional training. All of them have completed Rebecca's training program and continue to meet with her weekly to ensure best-in-class care for every client.
When you book your call, we'll match you with the right coach for your situation based on a few quick questions.
If at any point during your first session it doesn't feel like the right fit, we'll match you with a different coach at no charge.
You don’t have to face this journey alone.
Enroll now and begin your journey to healing, transformation, and renewed connection.
ENROLL NOWInside of this comprehensive One-on-One container, we address the critical aspects that are essential for full recovery:
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Trauma 101: Understanding trauma, how to achieve post traumatic growth and the role of trauma symptoms.
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How to unpack and understand your coping strategies to numb out, escape and seek validation and attention elsewhere.
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What role your unprocessed childhood trauma has in your current infidelity issues.
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What core beliefs are underlying the infidelity that you are believing and how to heal them.
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What attachment theory is and how you and your partner’s attachment styles impact your relationship.
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How co-dependent cycles work and how to break the cycle.
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What real remorse and accountability look like and how to access that state.
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Restorative justice principles and how it can inform a healthy repair process.
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What your specific negative cycles are in couple’s dynamics and how to have healing conversations that restructure your bond.
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Exploring intergenerational trauma and its role in perpetuating patterns of addiction, escape and betrayal.
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Working with shame. Learn the difference between helpful and limiting shame, and gain techniques to work with shame in a constructive way.
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Self-forgiveness and its role in the healing process.
Here’s what my clients are saying about the program:
"When I started this program, I was terribly dysregulated. The hypervigilance was insane. The symptoms were very, very loud. I was having a really hard time functioning. They were taking over my life. They're definitely quieter now. I have a newfound sense of security, of understanding that I do have control, that I do have power. I'm still in deep pain — but my husband isn't that demon, he's not that worthless. I can understand and I can show up differently. This is one of the best opportunities I have gifted myself in a very, very long time."
- Betrayed Partner, Week 11 of coaching
Week 1: "What I'm hoping to get out of this is a better understanding of myself — and what led me to do what I did. I want to be a stronger person, and understand what my wife is going through so I can better support her in whatever decision she makes."
Week 9: "Right now? I'm the most optimistic I've ever been about my marriage. Things are good. We communicate well. I've said to my wife repeatedly — I've never been this happy in my life."
- Cheating Partner, Weeks 1 and 9
"I finally feel free. I've been able to let go of so much pain because I have a better understanding of how to accept what happened, and that it wasn't my fault. I have truly loved myself for the first time in 40 years after this program."
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"How I wish we would have had this 4 years ago. It was truly transformational and would have saved us so much pain, heartache, money, and time. The level of expertise is unmatched."
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"Rebecca is the only person who's been able to show me not only the light at the end of the tunnel, but the path to get there — and given my husband the shovel to help dig us out."
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“Just do it. Do it now. Your happiness relies on it.”
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*We take client confidentiality seriously, which is why we do not share names, photos, or even screenshots of our testimonials.
Hi, I'm Rebecca
I’m honored to walk beside you as you begin this transformative healing journey.
Imagine having a seasoned couples and trauma therapist, an affair recovery expert with years of experience, guiding you through every aspect of healing from infidelity. Together, we will unpack the core beliefs and childhood wounding that have been influencing your life. I'll guide you through trauma processing to help heal your deepest triggers and shame. I’ll support you in sharing deeply and vulnerably with your partner, leading you through powerful exercises designed to foster self-compassion and self-forgiveness. Throughout, I’ll provide you with the critical psychoeducation needed to understand the complex layers of infidelity recovery.
My passion for this work stems from years of specialized training and a deep commitment to helping couples recover fully from infidelity. I’m a specialist in trauma therapy, couples therapy, and infidelity recovery, and my approach is grounded in evidence-based practices. I draw on techniques from EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), Emotion-Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), and somatic therapy to create a healing experience that is both impactful and long-lasting. Additionally, I bring a unique perspective from my work teaching at a somatic therapy institute and developing restorative justice curricula, which adds depth and context to the healing process.
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